My boyfriend is currently enrolled in online courses. He is extremely committed, spends a large amount of time on his class work (including not having sex on days he is studying, thank you very much. Darn you responsible boyfriend!), and has straight A’s.
So what’s the deal?
One of his classes offers a study guide in which the teacher provides questions and the student writes down the answers to help during open book tests. Well… the majority of the answers on the study guide cannot be found in the course material. I honestly thought the boyfriend wasn’t being thorough when he first told me this problem, but I read and searched his book and he was right: the answers aren’t in the text.
This has been frustrating, but not necessarily a problem until today. The boyfriend got an answer wrong on the test that wasn’t on his study guide or in the book. He went by what he found on google (mind you, the question wasn’t resulting in an opinion, it was about the results of a chemical breakdown). When he got the answer wrong, he emailed his teacher to explain why he chose his answer and to let her know that he is struggling because he can’t find the answers to most of the study guide questions in the book. She was so snobby in the way she told him that not all of the answers are in the study guide. He responded reiterating his confusion because the test question wasn’t covered in the book and she had the nerve to tell him to study his study guide. Bitch, please. I don’t know what happens in a teacher’s life, but when one of your A students has a concern which a test question, don’t you think you should take him seriously? It’s not like he is fighting for a passing grade. And, more importantly, do you read your email chains? How can you tell him to not rely entirely on his study guide in the same thought process of telling him to pay attention to his study guide?
It frustrated me greatly because he is very interested in the subject and I think it is extremely beneficial for him to take this course seriously.
While this upsets me, probably more than I should, it reminds me of why I avoid shutting people down regardless of how I feel about their suggestions (within reason, I’m talking to you racism, sexism, inappropriate situations, etc.). Have you been around someone who is constantly saying “no” or “can’t”? Even if it’s completely valid (hello parenting), it wears a person down, and likely those around them suffer too. I like to assume this teacher isn’t typically crabby, but that she has been worn down, whether it was the interaction that rubbed her wrong or something more, and I hope she rediscovers the power of yes and the desire to add value instead of subtract. (This in under the assumption she would have reacted to the situation differently in an improved state of mind.)
So… thank you teacher for reminding me of the power of yes, positivity, and adding value to each day. Let’s throw in the learning opportunity for stress management and the reminder that not all people in the position to help are willing to help in there too.